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Big scares and small ones...
Sep. 12th, 2004 09:51 pmY'know the news out my wife's Ob office, on Friday, should have qualified as a big scare. But it didn't. She was working from home that day and went to the Ob's by herself because the appointment was at 2 PM. She was planning on calling me after her appointment to tell me how it went. All good, right?
Well the Ob said the baby had lightened, begun its move down the pelvis towards birth, and turned. While neither of these are an indication of labor at the moment, it is a sign that labor could come soon. Did I mention that I was born two weeks early, and my wife likewise arrived early?
This should be scary. The bag isn't entirely packed. We don't have all the laundry done. We've not even taken the birthing class (that happened Saturday and Sunday). So she decides that she'll go ahead and take care of a few missing items before returning home. She's forgotten her cell phone so she elects not to call until she gets there.
Normally, I would not worry that I've not received a call. Friday was different. About 3 o'clock, my wife's mother calls to say that my wife's sister has been in a car accident this afternoon. As I've noted before, my wife's sister is pregnant, two months behind my wife. My mother-in-law tried to call my wife, but was unable to reach her. So I tried to contact her. I likewise failed. This is what really scared me.
While I'm not trying to say that things happen a certain way, or that I do or do not believe in coincidences. There comes a very scary moment when you cannot find the most important person in your life when you know you should be able to, and the person who most resembles her is in some sort of serious trouble. The mind tends to imagine things.
Eventually, about quarter to four, my wife calls from home and says that she hasn't checked the two messages (I left one, her mother left the other), but she was sorry about forgetting her cell phone. Well after relaying the information to her. She wanted to see her sister very quickly.
We drove up separately to the hospital where her sister was staying. Both she and the baby were fine, for the most part. She had some back pain, perhaps a little whiplash, and had gone into contractions which, for the most part, had settled down by the time we arrived around 5'ish. But it was clear that her husband was rattled. Though not at first, when he was still in his "go" mode for being with his wife.
But we let him get away for a moment to go home and get some food. My wife, who hadn't eaten too much had asked for some as well. After he had returned, he had brought back enough food to feed a much larger group than the number of people there, and wouldn't allow anyone to leave the room until we had eaten. It was clear, though there were no tears or screaming, that he was upset by the experience. As well he should have been. As well I would have.
And what should have been a big scare, that labor could come any time now, didn't seem all that large at the moment.
Well the Ob said the baby had lightened, begun its move down the pelvis towards birth, and turned. While neither of these are an indication of labor at the moment, it is a sign that labor could come soon. Did I mention that I was born two weeks early, and my wife likewise arrived early?
This should be scary. The bag isn't entirely packed. We don't have all the laundry done. We've not even taken the birthing class (that happened Saturday and Sunday). So she decides that she'll go ahead and take care of a few missing items before returning home. She's forgotten her cell phone so she elects not to call until she gets there.
Normally, I would not worry that I've not received a call. Friday was different. About 3 o'clock, my wife's mother calls to say that my wife's sister has been in a car accident this afternoon. As I've noted before, my wife's sister is pregnant, two months behind my wife. My mother-in-law tried to call my wife, but was unable to reach her. So I tried to contact her. I likewise failed. This is what really scared me.
While I'm not trying to say that things happen a certain way, or that I do or do not believe in coincidences. There comes a very scary moment when you cannot find the most important person in your life when you know you should be able to, and the person who most resembles her is in some sort of serious trouble. The mind tends to imagine things.
Eventually, about quarter to four, my wife calls from home and says that she hasn't checked the two messages (I left one, her mother left the other), but she was sorry about forgetting her cell phone. Well after relaying the information to her. She wanted to see her sister very quickly.
We drove up separately to the hospital where her sister was staying. Both she and the baby were fine, for the most part. She had some back pain, perhaps a little whiplash, and had gone into contractions which, for the most part, had settled down by the time we arrived around 5'ish. But it was clear that her husband was rattled. Though not at first, when he was still in his "go" mode for being with his wife.
But we let him get away for a moment to go home and get some food. My wife, who hadn't eaten too much had asked for some as well. After he had returned, he had brought back enough food to feed a much larger group than the number of people there, and wouldn't allow anyone to leave the room until we had eaten. It was clear, though there were no tears or screaming, that he was upset by the experience. As well he should have been. As well I would have.
And what should have been a big scare, that labor could come any time now, didn't seem all that large at the moment.
