Getting reamed out by family

So legstoner reamed me out for my posting on my grandparents.

It was quite warranted in some respects, not in others. But it does mean I owe some clarifications.

( some well-pointed criticism )

iridium_wolf's city passed Xandrapolis in population today. I guess that's because he's such a big mover & shaker in the world of LJ. Yeesh.

Oh yeah, that doesn't work

Concealment, Medicine, Flight, Leadership, Fitness. I dunno where I'm going to fit them all in.

I'm surprised none of the CoH/Vers commented on it but that's one too many pools even before I try and fit them all in.

( more Mastermind pondering )

Well I definitely know you should visit Xandrapolis

Sincerity

In Legend of the Five Rings they have this great skill called "Sincerity," meaning the ability to sound like you mean it regardless of what the truth happens to be.

When it comes to things where people make mountains out of molehills, I'm great at calming them down and providing reassurance. But when it comes to serious issues, I tend to think I suck at expressing concern and condolence.

Words seem to fail me in these situations. Maybe they don't, but I don't feel like I mean them even if I do. It's like when they pass around condolence cards at work. There's nothing I feel I can write there that will express how I feel for the person in that situation. "My deepest condolences?" - what does that really mean? "You're in my thoughts?" - well gee that's a big help. "You're in my prayers?" - if I had a stronger belief in God and all that, maybe. But even so, it still rings hollow.

So when a friend is in serious trouble and needs reassurance, I tend to remain silent. I don't know the right words to say, the right phrases to tell them I'm thinking of them and I'll be there when they need me. So I tend to give hugs. I give a hug and hope that all the worry, caring, and love I have to give are conveyed in that gesture, never really sure whether they'll know.

But I hope they do.

Anyways, please visit Xandrapolis and while you're at it, help deal with unemployment by adding some Industry.

Thanks!