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Okay.. so it doesn't take care of itself?
Sep. 8th, 2004 12:36 pmTonight is the first Infant Care class. We're having it at a local hospital's wellness center. It's a two day course from 7 to 9:30 in the evening. This has obviously been designed with the working parent in mind.
If it's anything like the last class we took (breastfeeding) it will begin with about 45 minutes of how "[subject of class] is the most important thing you can ever do and it's so important that if you [don't follow the subject of class by formula feeding or put your kid in daycare because you can't afford to have one of the parents stay at home] you will be the most horrible parent ever!"
It's somewhat disheartening to hear that apparently the biggest plague on mankind and the inevitable decline and fall of Western Civilization will be the absence of stay at home moms. But that's sometimes what you're made to feel like.
It doesn't help, not that it's her fault, that my wife makes significantly more money than I do. Indeed, it is her income that allows us to live in the townhouse we own, drive the cars that we drive, and enjoy things like regular home cable internet access.
But with her sister planning on being a stay-at-home mother, and since she has her own child due in December, the inevitable comparison comes up. I don't blame either for making the choices they've made, and I think we're making the right one. But it can be difficult on my wife's psyche to have to put up with being asked constantly, "So will you quit work?"
If it's anything like the last class we took (breastfeeding) it will begin with about 45 minutes of how "[subject of class] is the most important thing you can ever do and it's so important that if you [don't follow the subject of class by formula feeding or put your kid in daycare because you can't afford to have one of the parents stay at home] you will be the most horrible parent ever!"
It's somewhat disheartening to hear that apparently the biggest plague on mankind and the inevitable decline and fall of Western Civilization will be the absence of stay at home moms. But that's sometimes what you're made to feel like.
It doesn't help, not that it's her fault, that my wife makes significantly more money than I do. Indeed, it is her income that allows us to live in the townhouse we own, drive the cars that we drive, and enjoy things like regular home cable internet access.
But with her sister planning on being a stay-at-home mother, and since she has her own child due in December, the inevitable comparison comes up. I don't blame either for making the choices they've made, and I think we're making the right one. But it can be difficult on my wife's psyche to have to put up with being asked constantly, "So will you quit work?"
